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Being an Expat Woman: Navigating the Challenges and Embracing the Triumphs

Being an Expat Woman: Navigating the Challenges and Embracing the Triumphs

Embarking on an expat journey can be a profoundly transformative experience, especially for women. It’s a path that blends the excitement of exploring new horizons with the complexity of adapting to unfamiliar environments. In this article, Leigh Matthews, Aussie Psychologist and Founder of Therapy in Barcelona delves into the challenges and triumphs of being an expat woman, the expectations versus reality, and the essential qualities required to thrive abroad. Furthermore, she explores the significant role of therapy in easing the transition.

The Challenges

Being an expat woman often involves a tapestry of challenges. A study by Varma et al. (2011) highlights how expatriates frequently face psychological stress due to cultural dissonance. For women, these challenges can be accentuated by factors like gender roles and expectations in different societies. Navigating a new professional landscape while balancing family responsibilities can be daunting, especially in cultures with distinct views on gender roles.

Another significant hurdle is the sense of isolation and loneliness. A 2019 survey by InterNations, a global expat network, found that 64% of expats struggle with missing their personal support network. For women, who often play a central role in maintaining family and social ties, this can be particularly challenging.

Expectations vs. Reality

The gap between expectations and reality can be wide for expat women. The allure of a new adventure can be shadowed by unanticipated cultural and social barriers. The expat life often portrayed in media is a glamorised version, neglecting the mundane struggles and the emotional labor involved in relocating to a foreign land. 

There are many different types of expat women. Let’s explore the challenges for just a few: 

  1. Being a Single Expat Woman: Single women face unique challenges in expat life. They often grapple with societal perceptions and the pressure of establishing a social and support network from scratch. Safety concerns, especially in regions with differing attitudes towards women, can be a significant stressor. Additionally, the emotional toll of loneliness and the quest for meaningful relationships can weigh heavily. Dating in a foreign land represents a whole world of difficult interactions and takes significant amounts of energy to navigate.

  2. The Trailing Spouse: Sometimes overshadowed by their partner’s career, accompanying spouses face the challenge of redefining their identity in a new context. This can lead to feelings of dependency and loss of autonomy. According to a study by Lazarova and Cerdin (2007), trailing spouses may experience career disruptions, identity crises, and reduced self-esteem due to their dependent status.

  3. Pregnancy and Motherhood in a Foreign Culture: Experiencing pregnancy and motherhood in an unfamiliar cultural setting adds an additional layer of complexity. Navigating foreign healthcare systems, differing prenatal and postnatal practices, and the absence of a traditional support network can be daunting. Language barriers and cultural differences in child-rearing can also lead to feelings of isolation and inadequacy.

  4. Pre- and Post-Natal Challenges: The period before and after childbirth can be particularly challenging for expat women. Issues like finding trustworthy healthcare professionals, managing prenatal and postnatal care in a different medical system, and coping with postpartum depression without a familiar support network are common. The lack of family support during this crucial time often heightens the emotional and physical strain.


Despite the obstacles, being an expat woman is also replete with triumphs. There’s the exhilaration of exploring new cultures, languages, and lifestyles. These experiences enrich one’s perspective, fostering a unique blend of resilience and adaptability. A research article in the Journal of Global Mobility (2018) highlights that living abroad often leads to significant personal and professional growth.

Expatriate women also frequently become champions of cross-cultural communication, bringing diverse perspectives to the workplace and their personal lives. This ability to bridge cultures is a valuable skill in our increasingly globalised world.

Indeed, the life of an expat woman, whether as a single individual, a trailing spouse, or a mother experiencing pregnancy and childcare in a foreign culture, is filled with a unique set of triumphs and enrichments. Each role brings its own set of rewards, contributing to personal growth and a deeper understanding of the world.

  1. Triumphs of Being a Single Expat Woman

    • Independence and Self-Discovery: Single expat women often experience unparalleled personal growth. They have the freedom to make choices solely based on their own preferences and career goals. This independence is a fertile ground for self-discovery and personal development.

    • Career Opportunities: Many single expat women seize the opportunity to advance their careers, taking on roles that may not have been available in their home countries. This can lead to significant professional growth and fulfilment.

    • Cultural Immersion: Without the constraints of adjusting to a partner’s needs, single women can immerse themselves fully in the local culture, learn new languages, and form diverse social networks. This leads to a profound understanding of global perspectives.

    • Stronger Resilience: Facing the challenges of expat life alone can build incredible resilience. Single women learn to navigate foreign systems and solve problems independently, which enhances their coping skills in various aspects of life.

  2. Triumphs of Being a Trailing Spouse

    • Opportunity for a New Start: For many accompanying spouses, relocating offers a chance to start anew. This can mean exploring new hobbies, volunteering, studying, or even starting a business as many of us do. It is a call to reinvention!

    • Global Networking: Being a trailing spouse provides opportunities to meet people from various backgrounds and cultures. This networking can lead to lifelong friendships and professional connections.

    • Family Cohesion: The experience can strengthen family bonds as families navigate the challenges of relocation together. It’s an opportunity for couples and families to work as a team and support each other in a new environment.

    • Cultural Learning for Children: Children in these families are often exposed to diverse cultures, languages, and educational experiences, which can be incredibly enriching for their development.

  3. Triumphs of Pregnancy and Motherhood in a Foreign Culture

    • Diverse Medical Perspectives: Experiencing pregnancy and childbirth in a different healthcare system can provide access to different medical approaches and techniques, contributing to a well-rounded prenatal and postnatal experience.

    • Cultural Diversity in Child-Rearing: Raising a child in a foreign culture exposes both the mother and child to diverse parenting philosophies and practices, enriching their understanding and adaptability.

    • Building a Global Support Network: While challenging, being away from a traditional support network allows expat mothers to create a global community of friends and other expat families, leading to unique and diverse support systems.

    • Global Citizens: Children born and raised in these environments often grow up as global citizens, fluent in multiple languages, and comfortable in various cultural settings.

The journey of an expat woman, regardless of her role, is filled with profound triumphs and enrichments. From the independence and career growth of the single expat woman, to the family cohesion and new beginnings of the trailing spouse, and the culturally rich upbringing of children born to expat mothers, these experiences contribute to a life of rich diversity and personal growth. Each path, with its unique challenges, offers an equally unique set of rewards, shaping expat women into versatile, resilient, and culturally savvy individuals.


Qualities for Success

  1. Open-Mindedness: Open-mindedness is crucial. It allows expat women to embrace different cultural practices and viewpoints without immediate judgment, fostering smoother integration into new communities.

  2. Cognitive Flexibility: This involves the ability to adjust one’s thinking and behaviour to new, changing, or unexpected events. Cognitive flexibility is key in managing the unpredictability of living abroad.

  3. Resilience: The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties is essential. A study by Lazarova et al. (2010) in the Journal of International Business Studies indicates that resilience aids expatriates in coping with initial adjustment stress.

  4. Adaptation: Adapting to new environments and cultures is vital for success. This means understanding and respecting local customs and norms, even if they are vastly different from one’s own.

  5. Resourcefulness: Expat women often need to solve problems creatively, especially when familiar resources are unavailable.

  6. Emotional Regulation Skills: The ability to manage and respond to an emotional experience in an appropriate manner is critical. This skill helps in navigating the emotional ups and downs of expat life.

  7. Cultural Sensitivity: Being aware and respectful of cultural differences helps in building meaningful relationships in a new country.

The Role of Therapy

Therapy can play a pivotal role in smoothing the expatriate journey. It provides a space to process the complex emotions and experiences that come with living abroad. Therapy can help in developing coping strategies for adjustment, dealing with cultural shock, and managing the stress associated with being away from one’s support network.


Being an expat woman is a journey filled with contrasts – it’s challenging yet rewarding, demanding yet enriching. While the path is fraught with hurdles, it’s also paved with opportunities for growth and self-discovery. The qualities of open-mindedness, cognitive flexibility, resilience, adaptation, resourcefulness, emotional regulation, and cultural sensitivity are indispensable tools in this journey. And in moments of struggle, therapy can offer a supportive and understanding environment to navigate the complexities of expat life.

Through embracing both the challenges and triumphs, expat women can not only survive but thrive in their new environments, turning what could be a daunting experience into an empowering one.

Would you like support in your expat adventure? Therapy in Barcelona offers a personalised match for each client to a therapist on our team. Therapy in Barcelona is founded on the understanding that the essence of effective therapy lies in the relationship between therapist and client. Due to our thorough assessment of client needs and goals and personalised matching, we do our best to enhance the probability of positive therapeutic outcomes for clients and therapists.

Therapy in Barcelona is a woman founded and led group therapy practice offering the services of a team of English-speaking, psychology-trained expat therapists from around the world. We offer both online and in-office sessions.

Leigh Matthews is the Australian Psychologist, Founder and Director of Therapy in Barcelona. She invites you into the safe, reliable, supportive environment she has created with the most caring team of expat professionals at Therapy in Barcelona. 


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