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Embracing the Power of Not Belonging: A Journey for Internationals

Embracing the Power of Not Belonging: A Journey for Internationals

As internationals living in a culture distinct from our own, such as the rich and diverse environment of Spain, we often confront complex emotions associated with not quite fitting in. This journey, while challenging, is imbued with unique strengths and invaluable opportunities for growth. Being different offers us the permission to explore new ways of being. It can be a wonderful gift!

Leigh Matthews, Founder and Director of Therapy in Barcelona and Aussie Psychologist living in Barcelona, explores this topic of embracing the power of un-belonging as an extranjera in Spain.

The Pride in Being Different

There’s inherent power in not aligning perfectly with the traditional norms. This divergence allows us to view the world through a dual lens—cherishing the customs of our native culture while embracing the new perspectives offered by our adopted home. This blend of experiences enriches our worldview, fostering adaptability, empathy, and open-mindedness. It allows us to build more dimensions into our being! 

For instance, consider the simple act of walking down a bustling street in Barcelona. Each step taken is a reminder of our distinct path—how we perceive, interact, and connect with our surroundings is profoundly different from someone born and raised here. This awareness can be a source of pride, as it highlights our unique journey and the courage it takes to embark on such an adventure.

The Freedom of Self-Discovery

Living abroad extricates us from familiar social structures and expectations. This shift can be daunting, but it’s also liberating. It offers a rare chance for self-discovery, to understand who we are outside the constraints of our native culture. It’s an opportunity to redefine ourselves and our values in a way that truly resonates with our individual identities.

This journey of self-discovery often involves reevaluating what we consider important. Freed from the familiar patterns of our home culture, we can explore new hobbies, form unexpected friendships, and embrace different ways of thinking. For many, this process is transformative, leading to a more authentic and fulfilling life.

Building Unique Connections

While the sensation of not belonging can be challenging, it fosters connections with others who share our experience. There’s a unique camaraderie among expats and internationals, a mutual understanding that transcends borders. These connections often blossom into deep, lasting friendships, forged through shared experiences and mutual support.

In these communities, we find others who understand the nuances of living between cultures. They empathise with the challenges of learning a new language, adapting to different social norms, and the occasional pangs of homesickness. These shared experiences create a bond that is both powerful and comforting.

Contributing to Diversity

Our presence as internationals contributes to the cultural tapestry of our host country. We bring new ideas, perspectives, and traditions that enhance the diversity and inclusivity of society. By embracing our unique identities, we help break down stereotypes and promote a deeper understanding between cultures.

Consider, for example, the international festivals that occur in many cities. These events are a celebration of diversity, showcasing the food, music, and traditions of various cultures. As internationals, we play a vital role in these celebrations, not only by sharing aspects of our own cultures but also by appreciating and learning from others. This exchange of culture enriches everyone involved, creating a more vibrant and interconnected community.

Finding Strength in Support

At Therapy in Barcelona, we recognise the unique challenges faced by internationals. Our team of English-speaking, Psychology-trained expat therapists offers a sanctuary for those navigating the complexities of living in a foreign land. We provide support and valuable tools for your journey, helping you find strength, resilience and a new mindset to manage your unique situation. Importantly, all therapists are expats, like you! We ‘get’ you and will meet you with no judgment.

Navigating Cultural Challenges

Living in a new country comes with its own set of cultural challenges. From understanding local customs to navigating the legalities of residency, each day can present new hurdles. However, these challenges also teach us resilience and problem-solving skills. They push us out of our comfort zones and encourage us to develop new competencies.

I believe that the most accelerated form of self-development is living in a foreign country, especially if the challenge is undertaken with intentionality.

In therapy, we can explore these challenges, offering strategies to cope and thrive in unfamiliar environments. We discuss the importance of cultural humility—approaching new experiences with openness and a willingness to learn. This mindset not only helps in adapting to new cultures but also enriches our personal growth.

Maintaining Connections with Home

While embracing our life in a new country, it’s also important to maintain connections with our home. Technology has made it easier than ever to stay in touch with family and friends, regardless of the distance. These connections provide a vital link to our roots and can be a source of comfort during times of homesickness.

In therapy, we often explore ways to balance these connections with the need to integrate into our new environment. It’s about finding a healthy equilibrium where we can cherish our past while fully engaging with our present.

Embracing New Traditions and Cultures

One of the joys of living abroad is the opportunity to embrace new traditions and cultures. This can mean participating in local festivals, trying new foods, or learning the local language. Each of these experiences not only deepens our understanding of the new culture but also adds to our personal tapestry of experiences.

Embracing new cultures is not just about adopting new ways of living; it’s about expanding our perspectives and developing a more inclusive worldview. As we participate in local customs and traditions, we not only show respect for our host country but also enrich our understanding of what it means to be a global citizen.

The journey of not belonging as an international in a foreign land like Spain is both challenging and enriching. It offers a unique opportunity to grow, discover, and connect in ways that might have seemed impossible in our native culture. While this path may include moments of isolation or misunderstanding, it also leads to incredible personal growth, deeper empathy, and a broadened perspective of the world.

At Therapy in Barcelona, we are committed to supporting you through this journey. Our diverse team of therapists is here to help you navigate the complexities of living abroad, offering guidance tailored to your unique experiences and challenges. We believe that there is immense power and pride in your journey of not belonging. It’s a path that fosters personal growth, cultural exchange, and self-discovery. Embrace this journey with an open heart and mind, and remember, you are not alone in this adventure.

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