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A (mindful) party for one!

London Mindfulness Blog 

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People live or spend time alone for all kinds of reasons; some by choice, some by circumstance. Some hate to be alone, while others relish the freedom that solitude brings. The chances are that at some point in our lives we will find ourselves alone for various reasons. Sometimes we’ll find fun in getting to know ourselves better, while other times we might feel rejected, or scared or tired of being by ourselves. So here are some tips on how mindfulness can help us enjoy time spent alone, and also how it can help get us through the tough patches.

Learning to Like Our Own Company

In this day and age, few of us truly spend time alone with ourselves. Even when we’re physically alone we may be interacting with friends on social media, or distracting ourselves with TV, food, smoking, alcohol, even daydreaming about a perfect fantasy life takes us away from really engaging with ourselves in the present. This is especially true for those of us who don’t like to be alone. If we’re feeling sad, lonely or isolated, it’s natural to want to turn away from these feelings by filling our time with distractions and comforts. However, while they may work in the short-term, it’s never too long before we need something else. The problem is we don’t like our own company. Or at least we’re not familiar with it.

Becoming more mindful can help us see when we’re avoiding ourselves, and can help us determine why. Is it because we’re feeling an uncomfortable emotion? Is it because we’re scared of what thoughts or feelings may come up once we stop distracting ourselves? Once we know the answer, we can then give ourselves some compassion and understanding. Next time you feel low, instead of immediately reaching for a distraction, why not try sitting for a few moments with the feeling, and give yourself an internal hug?

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